Tuesday, 6 May 2014

SWEET SORROW


"To have and to hold, from this day forward…to love and to cherish...'til death do us part." Those beautiful words from our wedding vows are so sweet yet foreboding.

A month before Christmas, my dear husband Francis went on a journey that only he could embark on. My husband of nearly twenty three years has always been so close to me, always by my side and I have never imagined that we wouldn't be together forever. He was not perfect but he was the perfect one for me. I thought being with him was my happy ever after.  



We were both looking so far ahead. We had dreams and plans for the future. We had foreseen how we would be as old people and looked forward to being a part of our children's adult lives. Being apart was never in our plans. 



Unfortunately, destiny has its twists and turns and what comes round the bend is sometimes so unexpected and deeply traumatic.

Francis succumbed to colon cancer a month before Christmas, just two months after being diagnosed. He has always been well, strong and protective. I have never imagined him unwell, much less gone. He has left such a huge, deep, dark space that I cannot fathom at the moment. 



It is so difficult to be so immensely pained, yet obliged to remain strong for the sake of my children. It is not just grief I have to deal with but the sudden drastic change in our lives. 

I thank everyone who prays for me, comforts me and encourages me to be strong. The task ahead is indeed daunting but I have faith in God's infinite plans. Everything that happens happens for a good reason. I trust that Francis dwells in eternal happiness and peace. I trust that there are bigger plans for me and my children, and we will have divine guidance to lead us through. I hope for enlightenment and strength so that I may build a new life for my family. 

I am taking a break from the blog for a while but will resume the posts when I can. Francis and I shared the same passion for food. We had a culinary journey together. Although he is gone, he will continue to inspire me.



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Francis' favourites:
Nasi Lemak
Nasi Ayam

Kari Kari
Taho (Soy Milk Junket)
Crispy Pata
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22 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear this very sad news, Adora. Our thoughts and prayers to Francisc, to you, and to your children. Be strong, my friend.

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  2. I've been a follower of your blog for a couple of years now, and im already wondering why your not posting anymore. Im sorry about your loss. Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow. This is all I pray for your
    family during your most trying times.
    May God be with you in your loss!

    Divine R.

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  3. I will pray for you…right now. Praying for peace in your heart.

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  4. Hi Adora
    I am at lost of words to what I would like to say but I hope you will stay strong for your children. I am sure Francis would want you to move on and keep those sweet memories deep down in your heart. You must take good care yourself too.

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  5. I am so sorry for your loss. One can only imagine the devastation. Having been diagnosed with colon cancer myself 4 yrs ago I understand the pain but not the loss. My thoughts are with you and your family, be strong for all.

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  6. Truly sorry for your loss. I will pray that God gives you strength and comfort during this most difficult time. God bless you and your kids.

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  7. I am very sorry for your loss. I pray that you and your children will find peace in knowing that Francis is with our Lord and no longer suffering from colon cancer. Those these words may not comfort you I pray for you to continue living a fulfilling life with much joy and happiness. Father in Heaven please watch over this loving family. Help them to find strength and comfort in Your words. Help them to always remember Francis with only happy memories and ease their pain and heartache during this time of sorrow. In Jesus name, Amen!

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  8. I was wondering why I haven't seen you post recently, but now I know. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know no amount of words will make you feel better, but I hope you'll stay strong.

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  9. My heart is just broken from reading this for you. I am just so very sorry and I truly understand your loss and heartache that you are enduring for a time, because time will heal that pain...I lost 5 family members (my mom and dad, grandmother, great-aunt and cousin all last year). All I have left in this world is my son and I cherish my time with him and through our children they seem to bring out a warmth within us because we can see our families in them. May the Lord bless you and be with you and your family during this time and may He comfort your soul to be at peace and give you much strength. You are loved by many and we all thank you for what you have given us...I look forward to when you will return, but unitl then, know His peace. GOD BLESS you always!

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  10. I am sori to read abt this new....
    Be strong...take care...
    God Bless...

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  11. I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. You mentioned your family and your husband often so I know the loss is monumental. It is good that you have your God to lean on and lead you. I wish you surrounded by people who love you and help you through the rest of your journey.

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  12. Hi Adora, please accept my heart felt condolences. Take goods care of yourself and stay strong for your children and everyone who loves you.

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  13. I am so sorry to hear about your loss of your dear husband. Praying that the Lord will lead you by the hand to this place of healing so that you might once again walk your own path amd make memories. My heartfelt condolence to your family.

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  14. Adora, I don't have the words to say how sorry I am for your loss. There is comfort in hearing how much you loved each other and the happiness you shared. Thinking of you and your children during this hard time.

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  15. My deepest condolences. May Francis rest peacefully in God's embrace. May the Lord shower you and your family with all the graces necessary to see you through this.

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  16. I am so sorry for your loss Adora. I'm sure you will find comfort from God, your loving children, family, and friends. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Please take good care of your self.

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  17. I am so deeply sorry for your loss, Adora. My prayers for you and your family. <3

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  18. I just found your blog today (051214) and my heart aches for you! Saying a little prayer for you and your family! Take care of you and your family first...that's what is most important. We'll be here awaiting your return...don't worry about us! GOD Bless!

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  19. Oh Adora - I am so very sorry for your loss and your childrens' loss. I can only imagine how hard it has been for you these past months. Your beautiful post really shares your love of husband and family. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and the kids.

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  20. I've been a follower of your blog and wondered why you haven't posted and tonight, I feel your deep sense of loss. Please take care of yourself and your family. I pray that the good God will send you comfort and in due time, you will feel whole again.

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  21. Our hearts go with you in this time of sorrow. We will always be here for you. We love you!

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  22. sorry for your loss, please love yourself and your children and waiting for your return. Best regards.

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